Intergroup Meeting Friday 6:30 –VIRTUAL INTERGROUP DIRECTIONS

Dear Fellow Traveler,

The Southeast Florida Intergroup meeting will be held on Friday, Aug. 18 at
6:30pm.  Those of you who would like to meet face-to-face, can join us at
Nancy U. house at 1131 North Palmway in Lake Worth.  Her number is
505.603.9080 if you need directions.

Those of you who would like to join us virtually, can follow the following
directions.  This is the first time we have done it this way so be prepared
for a learning curve.  If you have any questions, contact me at
561.236.4298.

VIRTUAL INTERGROUP DIRECTIONS

Go to www.  <https://www.intherooms.com> https://www.intherooms.com

Sign up for an account

Once you are logged in, click on “video meetings” located at the top of the
page

Click on ACA Tues night 9pm (I know that is not the night or time that we
are meeting, but go ahead and click on that)

Please spread the word at your meetings about the Intergroup meeting.

Kathy A.

Intergroup Chairperson

561.236.4298

Welcome to the South Florida ACA Intergroup Website

Welcome to the South East Florida Intergroup website for Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA).  Just taking the time to find us, was a big first step in your recovery.  Spend a few minutes navigating these pages.  If you can relate to any of the “Laundry List” characteristics listed below, you’re probably in the right place.  We hope that you find this to be a helpful resource.  Bookmark this page for future reference, and use this site as one of your recovery tools.

What is ACA?

ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) is a 12-Step, 12-Tradition fellowship focused on recovering from specific behavior and attitude patterns developed while growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional home.

download-4ACA is not meant to be a substitute for other 12-Step programs but the tools we offer can be helpful in recovery. Meetings are intended to be safe places where we can share our experience, strength and hope without judgment or criticism. We have the right to listen without sharing until we are ready.

This program is grounded in spiritual guidance, not affiliated with any particular religion. We respect one another’s anonymity: who we see at meetings and what they say is treated confidentially.

We meet together to do what we have been unable to do alone. We welcome you to join us.

How It Works
As ACA becomes a safe place for you, you will find freedom to express all the hurts and fears that you have kept inside and to free yourself from the shame and blame that are carry-overs from the past. You will become an adult who is imprisoned no longer by childhood reactions. You will recover the child within you, learning to love and accept yourself.

The ACA “Laundry List”
The ACA Promises
ACA Twelve Steps
ACA Twelve Traditions

Am I an Adult Child?

An adult child is someone who responds to adult situations with self-doubt, self-blame, or a sense of being wrong or inferior, all learned from stages of childhood.

If you answer “yes” to three or more of these questions, you may be suffering from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family.

  • Do you recall anyone drinking or taking drugs or being involved in some other behavior that you now believe could be dysfunctional?
  • Did you avoid bringing friends to your home because of drinking or some other dysfunctional behavior in the home?
  • Did one of your parents make excuses for the other parent’s drinking or other behaviors?
  • Did your parents or relatives argue constantly?
  • Were you drawn into arguments or disagreements and asked to choose sides with one parent or relative against another?
  • Did you try to protect your brothers or sisters against drinking or other behavior in the family?
  • As an adult, do you feel immature? Do you feel like you are a child inside?
  • As an adult, do you believe you are treated like a child when you interact with your parents? Are you continuing to live out a childhood role with the parents?
  • Do you believe that it is your responsibility to take care of your parents’ feelings or worries? Do other relatives look to you to solve their problems?
  • Do you fear authority figures and angry people?
  • Do you constantly seek approval or praise but have difficulty accepting a compliment when one comes your way?
  • Do you see most forms of criticism as a personal attack?
  • Do you over commit yourself and then feel angry when others do not appreciate what you do?
  • Do you think you are responsible for the way another person feels or behaves?
  • Do you have difficulty identifying feelings?
  • Do you focus outside yourself for love or security?
  • Do you involve yourself in the problems of others? Do you feel more alive when there is a crisis?
  • Do you equate sex with intimacy?
  • Do you confuse love and pity?
  • Have you found yourself in a relationship with a compulsive or dangerous person and wonder how you got there?
  • Do you judge yourself without mercy and guess at what is normal?
  • Do you behave one way in public and another way at home?
  • Do you think your parents had a problem with drinking or taking drugs?
  • Do you think you were affected by the drinking or other dysfunctional behavior of your parents or family?

(Questions from the ACA Fellowship Text, pp. 18-20)